relationship goals: vol.1


I know, i’m single. I’m not enough experience about how good relationship are. But, look back from my latest relationship that not end well, i inspirated to make this post. As a three years single fighter a.k.a JOMBLO, sometimes i imagine how a good relationship that will make me a better person soon. Watch romantic drama that have so many romantic scene, i often touched and mumbling, “i want my relationship like this! Like this!” so then, when looking lovely couple, lovely husband and wife relationship, grandparent who still intimate even they was so old, i feel envy. Lol. 

Perhaps, it’s an age problem. In my country, especially in my town,  in mid-20’s age, they have to be married. Even, still not married yet, they officially have a boy/girlfriend. But i don’t think like that. After my latest relationship, i think so much that having a good relationship so then get married is not that easy. We have to deal with sooo many rules. Know well about who my partner are, who they family are, from what kind of family are, and so on. 

Why is that be so important? Because we are the next person who would life with my partner for a long time. We are the person who will deal with all their habit, good and bad. so, if since starting a relationship with him/her, we have to know who they are. It’s better if they are our bff before. But, if they are a new person in our life, don’t in a hurry to make a date. Be a good friend first, for them. I think, if they feel comfortable around us, naturally they will be more open about anything on us. But if they continue to lie or hide something about their identity, please do not hesitate to retreat. He/she is not a person who will make you happy.

That’s what happens in my latest love relationship ago. After three years dating, i’m still don’t know him well. He was not open about who he is to me. In fact, when he had an affair behind me was i don’t know. I admited it, i’m not aware. He’s a stranger for me at first, nor friend, nor from relatives. I accept his “love” (i still not sure he love me from begin. Love or need a status because he’s wanderer at that time) hopely, we will start to open each other after we’re dating. But, at the end, he become a stranger again after we broke up. I still don’t know who i’m dating this and i regret everything.

But, if i always like that, maybe i will be a spinster. Lol. Three year of though and introspection, i’ve been fine. Be wiser than before about love relationship. One of a key for good relationship is good communications. Communicate anything without exception, so that no suspicion. Even sometimes it feels bitter. If you are ready to spend the rest of your life with him, inevitably you have to accept whatever is on him, aren’t you? That’s a true love.


beauty: Born with Sensitive Skin


This is a kind of confession of sin post for what i have done with my own skin. First, i like to tell that i have a very very sensitive skin. My skin easily flushed, especialy my face, when overheated. Since high school, my mom always tell me not to wear any makeup because she was already aware if her daughter has sensitive skin. But, i don’t hear her. I start using makeup because all girl friend on my high school wear them. So i also interest to try them one. First, i try use compact powder and eyeliner. And then facial foam. I never use just one. I like to try any of facial foam including man facial foam. Hehe, i know i was wrong. Because the habit of flipping makeup, my face started to breakouts.


how to wear: white shirt and long vest


Today, we gonna talk about how to wear plain white shirt with long vest. Two items that currently i adore, where plain white shirt not seem ordinary with combine of the geeky and boyish look from long vest. Long vest bring so many benefit, especially for hijabist like me. Why? Because they capable to cover all my body (my boobs and my back). because when we wear plain white shirt, that two part of my body would see through. Long vest also be an alternative to wear with plain white shirt and substitute t-shirt or tank top that usually i wear to cover the see through effect and often make me swelter when weather is sooo hot. You know, i’m livin in the tropical countries, so i need some clothes that comfortable to wear. Plain white t-shirt is an answer. Because all of you know white is a color that absorb sweat faster than any other color. but, white color also often manifest in our bra if the fabric not thick enough.


fashion sketch: Putra Dharma

 the most favorite man street styler that I like is Putra Dharma. he was an Indonesian who is studying in Singapore. If you see his instagram feed, you will see a variety of monochrome styles, truly mono! Putra was posted all their photos with BW filter. his style much inspired by Joechia style. if there is a saying "black is a happy color," I justify it! I fell in love with the way of Putra Dharma play black color through outfit he was wearing. go check his daily outfit on their instagram @putradharma_



grateful for every little things you've got

assalamualaikum, pals! 

Do you know, most activities I enjoy are enjoying a performing art. anything. from seeing what others produce, we could well learn that there are a lot of sides that we need to see before judge them. creative people strive to pull out what they want other people to understand about what they understand. even opened our eyes about what they see and feel, that even we may never be able to see directly and feel the same experience with them.

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